Psychology Of Women Who Don’t Want To Breastfeed Their Baby?
Putting aside the fact that some women cannot physically breastfeed – that is not what my question is about. I am fully aware that some women cannot produce milk or have physical disabilities.
My question is regarding women who don’t WANT to breastfeed their child (thus deciding to use a chemical supplement – formula).
I find it incredibly disturbing that a woman does not have that primal instinct (either by choice or a result of the way she was raised or some other unknown factor).
Females, of all mammal species, will nurture their newborn with nature’s best nutrition – breast milk. I see it as a purely faulty or selfish mindset that could make a women deny her child the best nutrition and deny herself and her baby the bonding experience that comes with breastfeeding.
What is the psychology responsible for this choice by a woman?
i agree totally with you i am a mother of three all mine were breast feed, my middle child until she was 3, which helps to develop areas of the brain that nothing other than best milk can and that has Been scientifically proven, i think mothers that “choose ” not to feed do it for their own convenience and are not taking the baby’s interest seriously they need to get their priorities straight.
It could be that the baby’s mother sees breastfeeding as actually a selfish choice that excludes her partner (male or female) i.e. the baby’s other parent, from an equal oportunity to bond with the child. Feeding with a bottle – whether that be using expressed breast milk or formula – could be seen as an oportunity for both parents to have a more equal oportunity to participate in the feeding process and bonding opportunities. Just another point of view.
I agree with you. I would rather breastfeed for the sake of the baby but maybe some women feel uncomfortable with it. Maybe some dont want to be the only person to be able to feed the baby. Thats my guess
There could be all sorts of reasons and each woman is probably confronting different psychological triggers.
Obviously you are critical of women who don’t want to breastfeed and I guess it is even more poignant to ask why you have a problem with them. We can’t understand the psychology that motivates others but have the opportunity to examine ourself and our triggers.
When we feel strongly distressed or critical of others it is because they are bringing up an issue in our own psyche that we need to see about ourselves.
Is there a primal instinct of some sort that you are disturbed that you do not have and want to know why?
It’s not a choice it’s how she feels. Judging these women does not help.
some mothers don’t want to breast feed their babies because of their figure, or so that others can feed the baby while the mother rests. my mum did not breast feed me because she thought a lump on her breast might be a disease and so to protect me she put me on a bottle. the lump turned out to be breast cancer.
It’s a personal choice whether a woman wants to feed her baby from the breast or not, some women don’t do it because they work and can’t be there to always breastfeed, some women do it because they’re embarrased to have to do it in public. Or, there are some who can’t get over the fact that their breasts, which were long used for pleasure, are now being sulked from by their children and then eventually will go back to pleasure. That was my case when I had my daughter. Before you go insulting me, judging me, or getting on your soap box and ready to preach to me, I pumped her milk, so she got the same thing as if I’d done it mouth to breast.
It’s just not right for you to judge these women, do you see them asking questions “Why do women who breast feed let their child suck from their breast???” and go on and on and on and on about it? No, you don’t. It’s a choice, it’s how they feel, so leave them alone.
Some women choose not to breast feed for necessity,the time involved can be difficult to manage if the woman works,others think of the physical aspect,breasts change and, in their eyes, can become less attractive with breast feeding.
Breast feeding does help with nutrients and the support of brain growth, which is something every mother should think about. The benefits for the nursing mom are just as good as they are for the baby. The hormones that are released during breast feeding will curb blood loss post delivery and help to shrink the uterus back to it’s normal size